In business and life, you get what you create or allow

In business and life, you get what you create or allow

You always get what you create or allow. Contemplating this will either affirm how you live or give you pause. Each day remind yourself, “I’m either creating or allowing this.” It might be a habit, relationship, or thought pattern. Whatever type of organization you work for, there’s one of two approaches allowed or created that has become the culture of that organization – here’s what we do or what do you need. The first allows for repetition and sharpening of skills. The second eats your would be profits/productivity through repetitive learning curves unless you’ve factored the learning curve into your costs. Have you ever looked at a competitor or successful friend and wondered, “How do they do that?” It’s likely that one key factor is they have decided to offer only services and products that they know how to create or deliver efficiently and effectively or they charge a premium to offer their time and knowledge to figure out what someone identifies as a need. Many will consider you audacious if you take these approaches with firmness. Those are people lacking the confidence and commitment you have. Other people will respect your confidence and commitment and want to do business with you. The first group of people are not your concern; the second group is the client base you should focus on serving. What’s the “cost” of doing business with you? Make a quick, honest list. You know what you need to do to get on track. You simply lack the will right now to follow through. It’s within your power to change that part of the equation. You...
Why you’ll never regret negotiation when relationships are at stake

Why you’ll never regret negotiation when relationships are at stake

Negotiation is designed to ensure everyone gets something they want, but no one’s life or dignity is sacrificed. The ultimate goal of negotiation is to do everything possible to preserve some semblance of a relationship. Negotiation has gotten a bad rap in recent years. Perhaps too many don’t understand what negotiation is designed to achieve. “Strategic patience” with those who threaten to take life is not negotiation. Pretending to come to discussions willing to give something is not negotiation. Even when you’ve seen years of bad behavior, had one rug after another pulled out from under you, and endured threats, there’s still an important reason to attempt negotiation. If you must walk away from a client, contract, job, marriage, family member, friend, or any other situation, you’ll never be sure it was the right thing unless you attempt to negotiate the best outcome for both sides first. Practical negotiation steps Facts and situations will differ. Sometimes you won’t know going in at what point you’ll consider all options exhausted. However, the steps listed below should accompany your approach to every conflict. Write down privately what a “red-line” looks like for you (and a team if applicable). This is the place you cannot go based on principle and integrity. Begin the process with both sides stating verbally and in writing the core issue(s) or need(s). Bring someone into the process that is neutral and committed to the principles of negotiation to act as recorder and facilitator Go as slow as needed up front so you can go fast later. In other words, don’t rush the process or let the process...
Should I share what I know on YouTube?

Should I share what I know on YouTube?

If you have a product or idea to share, you need a YouTube channel. The Smart Phone has made everyone a movie maker, everywhere they go. In turn, most people want to see and hear versus simply read and view still images. Here’s a simple video produced by YouTube on how to set-up a channel. Why do I need to be on YouTube? While the world is full of noise and distractions, when we connect with others through common interests, to solve problems, or to fulfill needs and wants that is what makes life rich. Invest yourself and resources in becoming an expert in something you care about. Then use the multiplicity of platforms available for sharing it with the world. You’ll be rewarded for your effort. YouTube Facts YouTube is the second most popular searched site, with Google in the first slot. Video is undeniably the most powerful form of communication today. YouTube has over a billion users — almost one-third of all people on the Internet — and people watch hundreds of millions of hours on YouTube and generate billions of views daily. YouTube reaches more 18-34 and 18-49 year-olds than any cable network in the U.S. More than half of YouTube views come from mobile devices. You can navigate YouTube in a total of 76 different languages Source: https://www.brandwatch.com/blog/36-youtube-stats-2016/ Ready to get serious about branding and marketing on YouTube? Here’s the Google Creator Playbook for Brands. If you need help producing video or optimizing your YouTube Channel, we love helping people on this journey. Call 336-596-7514 or click here to contact Carla. See some of our...
How to get accolades and outcomes from your work

How to get accolades and outcomes from your work

Are you more concerned with accolades or outcomes?  You might say, “I want both.” Accolades are great, and everyone wants them. Some are willing to do anything to get noticed and promoted. A few intentional attitude shifts can help you get outcomes that naturally lead to personal rewards and possibly recognition. What it takes to get outcomes that lead to accolades.  Stop thinking about how you look to others. Think about the tasks, time, and people needed to get the job done for the team or organization. No one succeeds without a team. Most people operate quietly behind the scenes.You may not even know many of the people on your “team.” For example, someone is either turning the lights on or paying the bill. Who keeps the space you are working in clean? Who does the bookkeeping to ensure you get paid regularly? Be willing to do what others can’t or won’t. Most successful people find that with repetition of some task and grit, they become expert or proficient at something that eventually promotes them. See yourself as the guide, not the hero. Everyone wants to be a hero, and every hero has a guide (Yoda to Luke Skywalker, Kesuke Miyagi to Karate Kid, Mickey to Rocky, Donkey to Shrek). It does not work out when you jockey to be the hero. Let it happen. In the meantime, look for ways to help all the other heroes excel. This could be your team, boss, or a client. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself. It’s tough to find a balance because only you know what your best looks like....
Has Time Become Your Enemy?

Has Time Become Your Enemy?

As technology expanded, so did our obsession with time management (recently dubbed energy management). At the root is a desire to be happy. In our heart we hope that if the business succeeds, we’ll change the world and make a good living. The steps to getting what’s important done, and living a relatively happy life, have not changed since the beginning of civilization. You already know them, but let’s review. Live by percentages for longterm success. Everyone gets allotted the same 24/7.  Be honest about your responsibilities and needs, and how much time each takes daily. Create a balanced schedule that allots a percentage of time to your responsibilities and what’s important. Commit to it. The body is like an engine. It performs relative to how it is cared for, maintained. The hormones that get you through stressful times –adrenaline, cortisol, and norepinephrine –become enemies to the body if kept charged up too long. For many, the chronic headache, weight gain, depression, etc. can be eliminated with self-care. All humans need renewal every day (yes, seven days a week) that comes from adequate sleep, balanced meals, and intentional quite time (prayer, meditation). Exercise must be included in some form most days too. Relationships are not optional. Your parents, children, spouse, friends, family are a gift intended to make life rich and meaningful. If you don’t have people in your life that make you smile as well as challenge you to be your best, stop what you are doing and go seeking them. Good habits are hard to form but imperative to success. Jason Selk writes in Forbes that the 21-day habit...